PARENTING A NEURO DIVERGENT CHILD

First despite the inevitable struggles, it's actually a privilege.

You have been trusted with this utterly incredible human being, to help them develop their gifts and talents, which often are remarkable.
You are a gardener to this flower.
You can either trust the universe and operate to make those gifts grow or you can kill that flower forcing them into a neuro typical cage.

The latter will create someone who is unhappy, unfulfilled and very difficult to parent.

This because your child didn't become neuro divergent, they were made so, by you.
Yes, you made this child the way they are and they are not "typical", they were never meant to be neuro typical or live as a neuro typical.
They were meant to exist fully neuro divergent.

They were meant to embrace their neuro divergence whole heartedly and you were meant to help doing so, whether you are yourself neur divergent or not (but it wouldn't be unlikely that you are as well).
Neuro divergence isn't an illness, it's a mutation of how our brain is wired, with loads of evidence of genetic source.

They are bound to be different and they should let being different from the neuro typical; they might be a minority but still, there are many of them and often their divergence differs too.
they are meant to make a difference for themselves and for the world they are born in.

But this world, especially western society, isn't built yet for accomodating neuro divergence; it should be but it's not, there is a lot of work to do for these incredible human beings.

You, the parent of a neuro divergent child, are the first that needs to mark that difference, you need to tend them tenderly, gently; using love, kindness and a gentle touch, one that gives these kids wings to fly their own special way.

It doesn't matter how differently from anyone else they fly, they need to fly that way, you must encourage them to fly that way.
Let them soar the skies that excite them, those that very few people soar, in their own special style.

Don't clip those wings with neuro typical scissors

Have patience, have love, have kindness in your parenting, and most of all have acceptance.
Because if not with you, where should they find the acceptance that the neauro typical world often denies them?
Who better than you can be that refuge, place of rest and creativity, who else should be the first to let them know they are perfect the way their are? You made them that way, you must accept them the way they are.

You have an incredible chance to create something extraordinary or destroy it, what would you choose?

Remember, nothing can be built by hammering your bricks: build their life with care and they will flourish.

Izzy